Hi there - wow what a summer, huh?!
It's been super-hot and super-full for us.
We have a few more hot days still to come, but mornings and evenings have that slight coolness that hints of fall around the corner. That chill that requires a small blanket across my legs for coffee in the morning on the deck and that quiet time in the evening before calling it a day.
Love this time of year!! Love every season and am actually quite grateful to live in a place that truly has all seasons.
That being said, we also loved being in Hawaii!!
No they don't have all 4 seasons, but it was BEAUTIFUL there! The reason for us being in Hawaii certainly may have added to the beauty we saw...
Last Saturday, my baby girl got married - in Hawaii.
No, my 5 year-old daughter did not walk down the aisle! I know that parents are kinda crazy always referring to our children as our “babies”: Let me try to explain.
Our children our grown: 27, 29 and 31.
They have all been on their own for quite some time now and are capable, independent, and happy people.
But, every once in a while, something happens that absolutely drives a mom back to that place of seeing that grown person as a precious “baby”. I imagine this happens for dads as well, but I can only speak about the depth of this as a mom.
On Saturday, August 30, my 29 year-old daughter got married.
In the foyer of the chapel, the photographer was snapping pictures of a 5'8” bride so beautiful that she looked like she was out of magazine!
As I watched this happening, I had flashes of that adorable 5 year-old that would purposely sit in the bathroom and unroll the toilet paper roll - even after being told not to, time and again.
Juxtapositions like this just happen to moms...we can't help it!!
So, I came home with a sort of melancholy feeling about things: So happy for our daughter and new son-in-law, and so proud of our older daughter that coordinated this wedding so amazingly, and missing our son that lives on the east coast, and somewhat quieted by the whole event, as well.
To me, melancholy simply means reminiscing about that past and dreaming about the future, all at the same time.
My question that titled this blog is, “Do you know what you really need?”
We got home from Hawaii Monday night and I really had no interest or energy to do anything significant until Thursday!
I found myself wondering why I was experiencing this lack of energy. Which is why I am asking the above question.
I found that I needed a few days to process all that had taken place.
Was 3 days too much time to get my head back into the game?
Was I depressed in the midst of a wonderful time?
Was I sad about my daughter getting married?
Was there something wrong with me?
Today I can answer these questions and, hopefully, my answers will be a help to you.
3 days was NOT too long because it was how long I really needed.
I was not depressed or sad, and there is nothing wrong with me.
I just needed to be honest about what I needed to process things and I needed to allow myself the time necessary to do so.
We are complex beings that require care.
Sometimes that care needs to come from others, but, often, it needs to come from ourselves.
I am a mom and will always be a mom, but I am also a woman of God, a wife, a friend, a business woman, and one day I'll be a grandmother.
As my role of “mom” changes because my children are grown, I need to allow myself to move gently into this change.
Even though our children have been self-sufficient for many years, something significant still takes place when they get married.
I think part of it is knowing what lies ahead for them. Knowing how many rich blessings and challenges are ahead for them brings some time of deep thoughtfulness.
Thoughtfulness that, for me, requires some quiet time.
Thoughtfulness that for me requires much prayer time.
Thoughtfulness that for me requires some tears, both of joy and some sadness. And all of this is okay because it is what I really needed!
As things in your life change - and I hope you know that things will change - I want to encourage you to allow yourself what you really need to process these changes.
Change is inevitable, but we have the choice of how we let changes impact us.
I have decided to celebrate each of our children's changes with them - to glance at the past with fondness and look to the future with hopefulness.
I have decided to continue my faith walk with determination to be more and more faith-filled with each passing year.
I have decided to do what it takes to be the best wife my husband deserves.
I have decided to be a helpful and encouraging friend.
I have decided to be a successful business woman.
And I am determined to be an amazing grandmother!!
Work hard and rest when you need to...it's okay!!
Have a health-filled and happy day,
Everyone deserves "the Good Inside," and, yes, "Purity is Possible."